O Deanna!

[reddragdiva]

"If women knew what we were thinking, they'd never stop slapping us." — Larry Miller (via also_huey)
"I make sure to tell them what I'm thinking, it saves a lot of time. 'Lovely to see you. Fabulous breasts, by the way.'" — me.

Discuss.

Comments

[deathboy.livejournal.com]

absolutely likewise, I just also make sure they know there's other thoughts kicking around in my head, too.

though usually, by then, the slapping has begun.

[dan-lane.livejournal.com]

Womankind must never know the truth!

[also-huey.livejournal.com]

Ja. Personally, I think slapping would probably be a best-case scenario. "I've been thinking about something unsafe, insane, and nonconsensual, and I'm thinking 'Friday night' would be a good time for me. And, since I don't particularly care when's good for you, that'll be it. I just need to remember to have restraints both carefully-hidden and yet close-to-hand for when the fun starts. ...fun for me, anyways. You'll probably scream, at least until the ball-gag goes in..."

Yeah, that's gonna go over well. I should have that printed on my freakin' business cards already. Or just wear a T-shirt that says "Hi! I'm evil. Are you a target?"

[reddragdiva]

In my experience, the truth just needs the correct pitch to communicate what you want to communicate, e.g.

"I've been thinking about something unsafe, insane, and nonconsensual, and I'm thinking 'Friday night' would be a good time for me. How's your schedule?"

I mean, you'll be drooling with lust anyway, but you can be a gentleman about it. Chicks dig that. Mostly. Some.

[reddragdiva]

I'm safe as long as they can't reach up that high. In the skirt, of course, the package is tucked back well out of kneeing range.

[gothgeekgirl.livejournal.com]

What's to discuss? You're welcome to worship admire me any time you like.

More seriously, I don't understand women who are offended by the notion that men look and fantasize, which is what the Larry Miller quote is referring to. Whether I want any individual man (hell, any individual human) to walk up to me and tell me about it is another thing entirely.

Nobody should be offended by honest lust...

[mouseworks.livejournal.com]

...but that doesn't mean it's always sane to act out on it, or even say what you're thinking.

[markeris.livejournal.com]

posts that only make sense if you hang around with dirty filthy gothicks. Discuss.

[reddragdiva]

Who else is there to hang about with?

(Last time I went to a funeral, I wore a miniskirt and stockings and tested the theory that the difference between a straight boy and a bi boy is six drinks. Worked a treat. Well, it was a wake. And it was tals', which makes this entirely appropriate behaviour. But anyway.)

Re: Nobody should be offended by honest lust...

[reddragdiva]

In general, if people knew what you were really thinking they'd feel a compulsion to kill you. Or enough of them would.

[markeris.livejournal.com]

Your theory would be sound if you had a control group. The World Cup presents you with ample opportunity ;-)

Re: Nobody should be offended by honest lust...

[mouseworks.livejournal.com]

If people could hear each other thinking, it would be like Usenet, only worse.

[also-huey.livejournal.com]

Worse! Worse! How can it get any worse? Jehovah! Jehovah!

[rosefox]

I deduce that you like to be slapped. *)

[frou-frou.livejournal.com]

My mum used to say that she didn't mind getting wolf whistles: it was when the wolf whistles stopped that she worried about!

We're all going to reach the age when others are no longer lusting/fantasising about us. Better to be appreciated - although like gothgeekgirl I don't really want to hear about it unless I feel the same way too.

[grumpy-sysadmin.livejournal.com]

I'm not so sure it's a good idea to bring tanglethis along whenever I come to London any more.

[reddragdiva]

I think they'd fail the journey vs destination test.

[feanelwa.livejournal.com]

If men knew what I was thinking, they'd never talk to me again.

[reddragdiva]

A suitable T-shirt? My experiments with iron-on transfers and cheap shirts show a suitable selection of wearable mood icon (or hazard warning) equivalents should be eminently affordable.

[feanelwa.livejournal.com]

Might be quite difficult to travel by public transport if wearing a T-shirt that says "I would like to put plastic explosive between your toes, detonate and watch you bleed to death from the groin".

[feanelwa.livejournal.com]

Not all men you understand, e.g. not you. Just some. Most, maybe, if most insist on being dickheads.

[reddragdiva]

:-D

Perhaps a programmable T-shirt? Those will be fun.

Most people suck. I suppose some manifestations are more annoying to particular subjects than others.

[siani-hedgehog.livejournal.com]

two quotes highlight the fact that neither "women" nor "men" are homogenous groups! discuss.

[reddragdiva]

Definitely something programmable, then.

[reddragdiva]

"People are people/ So why should it be/ That so many suck."

[reddragdiva]

Yeah, when I'm a dickhead it's inadvertent and I'll apologise afterwards and try not to do it again.

[secretlondon.livejournal.com]

Your photos have a strong breast theme going through them for sure..

[reddragdiva]

It must be the height I'm taking them from.

[secretlondon.livejournal.com]

Possibly.. I'm thinking more of the photographer's eye..

[reddragdiva]

I must be a genius!

[baljemmett.livejournal.com]

Easy; no killfile.

[deerfold.livejournal.com]

It was nice to be attempted to be chatted up the other day. It's been too long since that happened. Not the gender I'd be looking for, even if I was available, but flattering nonetheless.

[reddragdiva]

I must say it brightens my day.

I think I wear skirts going out for the same reason tall middle-aged women do: if you've got good legs, use 'em!

[velvet-wood.livejournal.com]

My viewpoint? If I put them out there (and believe me, guys, we don't put them out there on display by _accident_!) then it'd be hipocritical in the extreme to get offended when they get attention. It'd be more of an insult, really, if they got ignored, now wouldn't it? I mean, here I've gone through all the trouble of underwires or corsets or twitching my neckline just right... Obviously I _want_ the attention, and if the hypothetical male acquaintance is ignoring it then either A)he's a very _close_ friend who's beyond such play, B)he's gay, or C)the breasties are no longer attractive, and I should go find a bathroom stall to cry in now.

However, if they're _not_ 'on display'... If she's wearing 'normal people' clothes, or a plain tshirt, then while general compliments are still welcome, specifics should perhaps be kept mental, and please avoid invoking "My eyes are up _here_, damn it!" issues.

Re: Nobody should be offended by honest lust...

[velvet-wood.livejournal.com]

True. But I would have a _whole_ lot more fun, socially, if people did say what they're thinking. Especially if they're trying to hint or flirt with me. See, I'm impaired. I am very good at reading body language, except in the case of someone flirting with me... in that case, I might as well be deaf and blind, because I'm just not going to see it. And I've been told that the attitude I project is intimidating, that I seem unapproachable and uninterested, period, when in actually I'm simply stiff from shyness and wary of embarrassing myself by showing unwanted attention. So, especially at places like playparties and such, it'd be really nice if anyone interested just came up and told me right off.

[horngirl.livejournal.com]

Personally, I appreciate honesty like that :-)

[loosechanj.livejournal.com]

If I think to about which of those applies to a female I'm interested in, I play it safe and stick to the first. Which means I haven't a chance. But then I haven't a chance anyway, so I don't know what my point is here.

Re: Nobody should be offended by honest lust...

[sister-stella.livejournal.com]

Hmmm, I've just been musing over why I've been missing Usenet...

[sister-stella.livejournal.com]

Does that mean they'd never _bother_ with talking again?

[sister-stella.livejournal.com]

"and not on me"




sorry, couldn't help it

[sister-stella.livejournal.com]

The delivery makes all the difference and needs to be adjusted for circumstances. Shy young things who have only just discovered their breasts are possibly not yet used to big positive manly responses but rather the trembling and mute or weirdly defensive responses of schoolboys.

Like a feminist (name forgotten) once said "Of course women want to be sex symbols but that's not ALL they want to be!"

Since a women's attractiveness is rumoured to expire at around 40 a gel needs to have more than merely physical charms. She needs pots and pots of money for plastic surgery and dangerous late-in-life pregnancies. Ahem, I mean ah, she needs to develop her mind and soul and what-not.

Meanwhile men stay attractive and employable forever and can still pick up women in their 20s and 30s and sire children well into old age. I know what I'm talking about. My father was 72 when I was born.

Re: Nobody should be offended by honest lust...

[reddragdiva]

I was at a party full of bis recently and we discussed the idea of bi hanky codes. Green for "this is a universal 'gidday!'", orange for "possibly, but you better be charming", red for "no, not today thank you", black for "don't like being touched except by detailed permission but civilised conversation is quite possible". Something like that.

[reddragdiva]

"Since a women's attractiveness is rumoured to expire at around 40"

I think something needs to be done about said rumormongers.

[reddragdiva]

*raises eyebrow at your mind today*

[sister-stella.livejournal.com]

It's the previous generations I suppose.

[sister-stella.livejournal.com]

ffarff posted a copy of his cybersex trolling. He likes to pretend he's some hot young slutty girl and get illiterate American teenagers to try to impress him. It's pretty amusing but coupled with watching "Ladette to Lady" and "Sex in the City" I ended up in a pretty weird mood all day.

I miss my weekly dose of the Whedonverse. It's heaps nicer to live in that any of the others. *sigh*