Death is not the end.

• Best idea ever.

Having to have a funeral for nephrozym was not good. But it was a great memorial service. Whoever put the FreeBSD and Eeyore cuddly toys on the coffin was spot-on. The weather was particularly apposite. The wake was high geekly quality too.

p.s.: SNOW!!!

You know, I never met Cameron Grant. But I feel honoured to have attended that service and wake. And to have met quiet000001.

I am utterly, utterly exhausted. I think it's weeks of crap piling up. This has been the most stressful of a stressful series of weeks. My head has felt like there was a steel band around it, particularly around the forehead. I shall be seeing the doctor on Monday to ask what to do about unemployment stress.

In other news, I owe d_floorlandmine a daily blowjob every morning for the next year. HLAGH HLAGH HLAGH HLAGH HLAGH

I love you! Now me! I love you!

• I have been greatly enjoying Uncyclopedia (the one with the beard from the other universe) and have greatly extended the article on Vegemite. See also air guitar, Scotland, George W. Bush, Margaret Thatcher, The Pope, Bands with only one song, RTFM, banned from the Internet, Wikipedia, LiveJournal, All Your Base Are Belong To Us.

• I recommend duranorak's new kittensounds music rant blog.

arkady's business cards have arrived and are apparently fantastic. BUY A DOLLY.

I hang out in a volatile social group of goths whose relationship spans are often measured in weeks and who play musical partners a lot. I've conspicuously had the same wife and the same girlfriend for two years. So people ask me about polyamory. (The idea that I am what passes for an expert opinion is genuinely frightening.)

In most cases I fear discouragement is probably the right answer — "You know how much work one girlfriend is? Two is ten times as much." — but I think I've got the key question: "If you see the love of your life kissing someone else and being genuinely happy to be doing so, will you be genuinely happy about it for them? If not, you probably shouldn't get into this."

Many people quite like the idea of a selection of lovers, but balk when you point out the opposite applies. The capacity for compersion/frubbliness/other-less-contrived-sounding-word is the vital thing. Not necessarily for everyone or all the time, but at all. Otherwise they won't be happy in this sort of arrangement.

Have I discovered the Polyamorist's Philosopher's Stone?